About me

For years I struggled with my weight. I just like many others was offered to have the gastric bypass but I knew that I was fearfully and wonderful made and I knew my body didn’t fail me but rather I failed myself. After listening to my doctor I decided to get a lap band inserted.

Ha Ha was that a BIG JOKE.

The day I came home I was eating macaroni and cheese and mashed potatoes and the very next day I had fried chicken…needless to say I quickly learned how to defeat this new device.  I kept the lap band in for a year and nothing happened except for during my last fill I was so tight I couldn’t even keep water down. My doctor loosened it back up and after a year I had it removed.

I was still 387 lbs. it just didn’t work for me and I know why, because my mind did not change.

My struggle with weight consisted of a few factors.

First I discovered that my initial problem was that I needed to MAKE MYSELF A PRIORTY!!!! I recognized that I struggled greatly with the “SUPERWOMAN” syndrome and that was simply being everything for everybody meanwhile neglecting myself.  I was the, wife, the mother, the professional, the volunteer, the counselor, the advisor, the mentor, the coach, the confidant, the ministry leader, the homemaker, and caretaker. I wore all of these hats and I wore them well and yet I was literally allowing myself to die! In this moment of reflections I decided to be SELFISH for once and take time out to care for and minister to me!

Secondly I recognized that I was LAZY. In ALL of my daily services I recognized that they required minimal physical activity but rater mental. For example I drove myself to work, and I drove my children around, I walked and sat and walked and sat!

Lastly I realized that my relationship with food was truly unhealthy. Culturally, the traditional preparations of all of my favorite foods were disgustingly unhealthy, my meal portions were unbalanced, and because my life was always on the go I found myself constantly eating on the run! This included every fast-food pit stop you could imagine! Not to mention every other thing I put in my mouth consisted of sugar and or carbs.

ALL of this led me to a whopping 387 lbs. for almost 20 years I carried around this weight until I TOLD MYSELF the BITTER TRUTH! KEYSHA girl you going to die if you continue on in this fashion!!!

I made up in my mind enough was enough and I began on the Blaq Butterfly journey of transformation! My desire was to #KILLFAT and so that became my hashtag. I made myself a PRIORITY and decided every day to dedicate time to myself.

My friend launched a 10 week weight loss challenge in June of 2014 and I joined and since then I have never looked back!! I recognized that I had to have and entire lifestyle change which consisted of diet and exercise. I learned that weight loss is 80 % of what you eat and 20% of what you do. So I studied portion control and hit the gym every day.

Now I meal prep, count calories, and workout everyday up to 3 times a day but, most importantly, I have a new lease on LIFE!